Changing your mindset to take action

Take action and get more deals with Brad Chnadler!

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what is up everybody we are live on the painless wholesaling hour this is a weekly call I do with batch TV and
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excited to have Brad Chandler on here what’s up Brad
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I think I think maybe it’s a little Frozen on your end I don’t know but anyway so for all of you that don’t know
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Brad Chandler Brad you back with us yeah yeah I’m here okay it froze up for a
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little bit so I don’t know if you were saying anything nope I’m good all right but yeah for
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those of you that don’t know Brad I’ll give a little introduction to Brad so Brad you’re the owner of Express home buyers he’s awesome I met him through
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networking and Brad has has built an amazing business and has been in uh you
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know Fix and Flip you’ve wholesaled quite uh tons of properties and you know I’ve chatted with him about what’s got
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him to that point and um you know he’s got an awesome message and on these weekly calls that I do on batch TV I
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like to you know show you guys exactly how to get into wholesaling show you the implementation instead of just the theory but I also like to bring in other
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guests on here that are are awesome at what they do in the industry and Brad is one of the guys I look up to because
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he’s not only is he awesome his business but he’s taking care of stuff in his personal life and that’s important in my opinion not just to be good at business
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but to be able to you know have the right mindset to take action because this is an action driven business if
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you’re not taking action then you’re probably not going to get a deal so right I like to kind of relate kind of
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your message with you know taking care of what’s going on in your personal life so you can feel you know ready to take
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action and uh make those moves that are necessary yeah I think we are having some internet
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issues I don’t know what’s going on can you hear me yeah I can hear you now it is breaking up though
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um so stream your I don’t know like stream yard does record locally so um at
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the end of the day it should be fine um but for now it might be I don’t know what’s going on well you’re coming
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through fine on my end I don’t know okay so if you can hear me I think I think
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it’d be solid but okay Brad did you hear what I caught anything I said right there or uh I mean I just heard you say
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how fantastic I was bro you are fantastic man so you want to give people a little bit of intro into kind of what
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you do and um a little bit about your experience in real estate and what what makes you awesome yeah man so uh 20
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years ago I got into real estate and uh took me eight long months to find my first deal I didn’t have a guy like
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Nathan that I could have gone to I wish I wish Nathan Nathan was around 20 years ago because he is one of the um I’m not
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just saying this because I’m on your show like I I just tell the truth all the time and sometimes sometimes the
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truth hurts and but it always it always it always takes away your suffering if you just always speak in the truth so no
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you’re you’re one of the guys who um I look I’m in a coaching program with you so I see you I talk you know I I hear
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from you almost on a daily basis and one of the main messages that you carry is Student Success Student Success Student
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Success that’s what you’re all about a lot of coaches are about how to scale their company how to how to bring in the
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next you know student and just make a lot of money and I know that’s not you so you guys are in awesome hands with
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Nathan um so 20 years ago started this business right I know looking back that I started it uh for for a reason to make
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a lot of money myself because I I didn’t feel worthy at the time I didn’t know that was the case but fast forward 20
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years um we’ve got a last year we did 300 deals I spent about an hour a week in
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the business in the last two weeks I’ve spent zero because I’ve been in Costa Rica in Florida having a great time with
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my daughter we went on spring break so um that’s kind of that’s kind of who I am
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um I do want to share a deal it’s about to close this week it’s a wholesale deal in California wow so we operate in DC in
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in of the 4 000 deals we’ve probably done three thousand nine hundred of them
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in DC and Maryland but we’ve exp DC Maryland Virginia but we’ve expanded to last year into LA and we’ve got a
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wholesale deal that if it closes this week and it’s a nif because wholesale deals will sometimes fall out yeah yeah
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it’s going to be a 200 000 uh rip oh my gosh get out of here you’re about to do 200 000 rip on a wholesale deal yup yup
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so um I know this is a real estate podcast and we’re gonna switch subjects and get into really important stuff but I just wanted to let everyone know like
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it happens right we didn’t do anything magical another uh competitor of ours actually had it under contract and
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couldn’t close or or actually they didn’t like them or something and we came in and we presented ourselves well
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and they trusted us and they believed in us and here we are like you know fingers crossed it will close but even if it
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doesn’t close we know the numbers are so good that we’ll we’ll just take it down and you know if we have to Spruce it up a little bit and then resell it amazing
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and those spreads exist in California because of the price of the price point of the home So for anybody that’s what
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listening to this if you’re in the Midwest for example when houses cost like anywhere from 60 to 200 000 it’s
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very difficult to make like giant spreads because the home values aren’t that much right so whenever I do deals
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there obviously you can get lucky writer you can find that great deal but when you’re in you know the West Coast
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California Oregon Washington Utah AZ like where price points can get up to
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the million when you find a property that is pretty distressed and you get it I’m assuming that’s what happened to you guys right you got it at the right price
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absolutely yeah it was an inherited property yep so there was definitely distress awesome yeah and that’s exactly
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right so if anybody’s watching this like wow I’d love to make 200 000 or a hundred my biggest deal that I did was
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like a hundred and uh six it was 197 000 but I actually whole-tailed it and then
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you know you got a little expenses with that but yeah it’s amazing when you get those doesn’t happen all the time right Brad like unfortunately we wish right
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but that’s that’s the thing with being consistent you do some bass hits you’re doing deals you’re making money and then
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as you stay consistent that big whale comes along right it’s not all the time but it does happen that’s some some we
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can kind of segue right into your message Brad is like uh a lot of what uh what you teach a lot what I teach is
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like consistency and it’s not so much like you’re getting pumped up to do take action and that’s how people succeed
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like I wouldn’t say I’m pumped up every day to go to work Brad like I don’t know if you’re like every day you’re
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motivated but there are certain things that you teach and that we I talk about that like get you in the mindset to be
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diligent to um you know take action even when life isn’t always perfect but you have that consistency in your life and I
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think a lot of your message goes into that like addressing those things that help you uh you know take that action
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right yeah so so the answer to your question is yes I do wake up every day every day happy and every day like
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motivate to do the business but not real estate like I got into real estate now 20 years looking back because I needed
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to prove my worth through through making money right I thought that would prove my word work I thought that would bring me happy and Islam was wrong it doesn’t
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and look at all the millionaires who die every year through drug overdoses like money won’t bring you happiness so
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Nathan can teach you how to make millions for sure um but but if you don’t have self-love
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and self-compassion it doesn’t matter like everything else in your life will suck so two years ago trying to get myself my son help for anxiety I was on
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the zoom call with a performance coach and she told me that I had a tick and I was like what are you talking about she
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said you blink profusely when you talk about your childhood you probably have some unresolved childhood she used the
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word trauma I don’t like to use the word trauma anymore because as soon as people hear that they’re like well I didn’t have trauma but right trauma can be as
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little as your sister little sister coming up from the hospital from being born and you felt like your parents loved her more than they loved you and
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therefore your little brain told yourself that you were unlovable or or you know not worthy of love so
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um she said you know your unresolved childhood trauma may be contributing to his anxiety do you want to come out and
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work with my ex-navy seal husband and I said of course I came out and then the weekend actually a three hour session my
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life completely changed and I realized that there was nothing ever wrong with Brad it was my parents and the way that
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they made me feel about myself and from that second that I walked out of that Airbnb bedroom I had my freedom
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literally I I was in tears like oh my gosh like I look back at my life and my
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business and the nine million dollars worth of mistakes and my failed marriages and my you know use of Weed and Alcohol and just on and on and on
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um it all came down to that so now I teach people how to how to find that same Freedom so a question to the the
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audience is the basis of most every property or every problem in your life comes down to
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one thing and one thing possible and you might be saying how is that possible because you know whether you have a
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business whether you’re having trouble knocking on doors or doing what Nathan says cold calling or texting whether
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you’re in a bad marriage you work too much um you don’t spend enough time with the kids or your kids have behavioral issues
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you’re out of shape you need to lose weight you constantly get stressed you get angry you drink too much smoke too much weed you have chaos in your
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business you procrastinate you have health issues literally like I go on and on and on these are vastly different things right completely different things
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do you know that every single one of those comes down to one problem and one part about one problem only
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and that is your thinking every single problem you have is a result of your thinking so what happens is a thought
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everything starts with a thought a thought becomes a feeling or an emotion and that feeling or emotion becomes an
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action and an action then becomes a behavior and a behavior justifies Itself by looking looping back and
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strengthening that initial thought so thought is I’m fat
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um I’m out of shape uh feeling is I’m no good so let me go eat some more and then
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I eat some more and then it’s like yup I’m fat no good so it’s just this continuous loop and that’s one of them
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never ending cycle yeah so so so you hear a lot of people talk about mindset
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and a lot of coaches talk about mindset mindsets are really overused word because you know how many people have
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been to Tony Robbins and Zig Ziglar events and all the motivational speakers and then they’re like rah-rah like the
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crowd is going and they’re like we’re gonna change my life and then Monday comes and they’re like they look around they’re like
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I’m the same person nothing has changed Brad I agree because I I remember when I was a brand new
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wholesaler and I went to an event uh like a weekend event I paid 7 500 to go to a mastermind event they got everyone
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pumped up they said hey just set big goals and do that and they just they got you you know sold on all these different
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Services they use and everyone was pumped when Monday hit I kind of forgot pretty much a lot of what they said
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other than looking at my notes in the motivation that’s why I kind of said mindset in the very beginning it’s like it that doesn’t always drive you right
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like you that can fade you have to dive deeper oh absolutely absolutely and and it’s it
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and why why doesn’t it work right um because you can’t change you can
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change your your thinking in in a weekend but what what they do at these
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events is it’s all about uh let’s do affirmations and let’s let’s change our
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behavior let’s go make more phone calls if you’re in marriage therapy it’s just like hey let’s call your wife more
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during the day bring her home flowers repeat back what she said go on more date nights right right the problem the
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problem isn’t the relationship if you’re in a bad marriage or a bad relationship it has nothing to do with the actual
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relationship it has to do with the relationship that you have with yourself and why do you have a bad relationship
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with yourself because you’re flawed thinking from childhood programming that you receive somewhere between the ages
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of zero and ten years old that you don’t even know is controlling your behavior because it’s buried in your subconscious
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mind and your subconscious mind controls 95 percent of your behavior so let’s get back to my mindset
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if you really want to change something in your business your life your health or whatever what do you have to do you’ve got to go to the source of the
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pain what caused that pain in the first place and the way that I do it is you can do it through different ways but the
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way that I do it that I think is the most effective way in the planet is is through hypnosis why hypnosis because
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hypnosis Taps into your subconscious mind well what’s hypnosis hypnosis is just a deeply relaxed state that lets
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you clear out all the the mess and the noise in your head and focus on the subconscious mind because the
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subconscious mind knows the source of every one of your problems and to fix pain whether it’s mental or physical
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you’ve got to go to the source so think about your vertebrae and your back and one is popped it’s it’s a what do they
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call that a herniated disc or a bulging disc it’s a good surgeon and how does a surgeon make money they operate on you
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so the surgeon says um we’re going to fuse these two together but he never he or she never
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goes back and looks at what what caused this in the first place they had to be muscles pulling this right so they do
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the surgery and then six months later the the patient is right back on the emergency room tape or the operating
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table because guess what they never went to the source of the pain so all of this mindset training that you get from most
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of the gurus out there doesn’t ever go to the source of the pain marriage counseling doesn’t go to the source of the pain uh talk therapy doesn’t go to
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the source of the pain it focuses on the symptoms oh you’re not making enough calls go make more calls well if you’re
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sitting there and your subconscious mind is telling yourself that you’re not worthy of success
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that you that you you’re not smart enough to close the deal do you think someone telling you to make another 100
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calls is going to fix anything it’s going to be tough no no it’s the
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same thing as like oh fix your marriage by going on more date nights and repeating back what you say well you can
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go on all the date nights you want and repeat back all you said but if your subconscious mind is telling you that
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you’re no good it’s never going to work it’s never gonna work you know Brad and that’s so interesting
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to me is like the reason why I like having you on here is because that that perspective that’s different that’s different than what a lot of people
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teach you know for me my my mentality has always been take action right like
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uh massive imperfect action like I’ll figure it out right and uh you know some people they want they want the life they
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want to be successful as wholesalers I want to be a successful Real Estate Investors but um you know they they do have those
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things that get in the way right yeah fear right right some people this
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this is how this is this I mean I could talk about this for 24 hours the difference between the difference
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between a Fortune 500 CEO and like a mid-level manager or a store manager at Walmart their IQ difference is so small
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right when you go through this childhood stress and you were programmed in the
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wrong way let’s call it you either say I’ve got to prove myself and break through walls which I think
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you and I are more in that category and then you have the people that are like because my parents and caregivers made
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me feel worthless I am worthless and I can’t do anything we pick one of those
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two paths so when you see the Tom Bradys of the world who have who outworked everybody if you think Tom Brady is some
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happy guy that’s like living the life you’re fooling yourself he’s gonna come back again he’s gonna he’s gonna retire
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because he has something to prove he’s got all the money in the world he had the beautiful wife messed that up he is
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still trying to prove something so when you look at top athletes and you look at CEOs they’re driven driven driven driven
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driven because they get up that’s my story I had to prove something but then you’ve got these other people that take the opposite and nothing it’s not right
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or wrong it’s just how how this affects us differently and if you’re aware of it you can only change if you’re aware of
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it there are so our prisons are full I was going to play a video and it just didn’t work to begin with it’s this
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amazing this lady who gets in the middle of a of like 50 prisoners in a circle in
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a prison yard and she’s like step forward if you’ve ever been hit step forward if you’ve ever seen your mom hit
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your dad step forward if you were told you’re no good and all these prisoners are stepping forward well guess what our
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prisons are full with sensitive sensitive people respond to trauma in a worse way so all of these guys weren’t
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born that way they were all through this this programming became that way so we
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as a society are so unaware every single problem in this world Nathan 99 my shirt
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says be addicted to self-love 99 of every problem in this world comes down to an individual’s lack of self-love and
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self-compassion and you may say oh that sounds so woo-woo it’s not dude it’s not
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why is someone an addict there has never been an addict that felt like they were enough so what do they do whether it’s
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hoarders alcoholics sex addicts gambling addicts marijuana addicts they’ve got to
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get more and more more more more so how do we change this we change this by
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living in the truth that you are enough live going back to the source of your pain figure out what the story you told
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yourself and then telling yourself a better story your brain has something there’s a concept called neuroplasticity
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and it’s your brain’s natural ability to regrow new neural Pathways you can
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literally through listening to a recording or speaking it day after day after day you can grow new neural
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Pathways in your brain right so if if Nathan has told you to make a hundred calls a week
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and you are so sphere-stricken that you can’t even pick up the phone or you pick up the phone and you’re like please
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don’t answer please don’t answer please don’t answer there’s a reason for this and it’s not your fault and and why you’ve been
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struggling and like you’re a smart person and you’re struggling like why can’t I do better and then you beat
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yourself up for and you’re like you’re lazy and you should do more it’s not your fault it’s it’s based on this
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programming and this fear that’s buried deep inside you that’s telling you that you’re not enough so how do you fix that
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that’s how you fix it you go back to the source of the pain and you use something like hypnosis and when you can start
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living in the truth that you are enough first of all identify it like you’ve got to be aware and if you’re sitting there
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saying no I got my together go take a three minute quiz that I that I came up with it’s a self-love quiz it’s at
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bradchandler.com forward slash love and that will tell you so much about
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your life because you’re either going to get extreme self-love and if you do your life is probably
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hidden in all on all cylinders your relationships are probably good your business is good your health is probably good then there’s mild self-love and
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then there’s lack of self-love if you score in one of those bottom two categories and Nathan’s telling you to
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make calls and you can’t make calls there is your answer right there so now you have awareness you lack self-love
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that lack of self-love is getting in the in your in in the way of uh your personal your Intimate Relationships
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it’s getting in the way of your business it’s getting in the way of doing what Nathan tells you to it’s getting in the
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way of your health it’s getting in your way of everything so if you think it’s woo-woo you can continue thinking as we
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will and go about your life and lacking self-love and just have shitty shitty relationship after shitty relationship and go from Bounce from one coaching
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program to the next and be like this doesn’t work it all works Nathan’s a badass Nathan has closed lots and lots
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and lots of deals I know what he teaches I have closed 4 000 deals so if you’re
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really really struggling this may be the answer whether you’re struggling in
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business or relationships or health or whatever this is the not maybe this is the answer yeah and Brad this it’s
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really interesting because you know a lot of people might be hearing what you’re saying and being like I don’t know I know you probably had some people like as you talk but that’s why I think
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it’s important to like you know uh you know expose people to like hey if you’re struggling to take action there’s
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probably something deeper and I know because I talk to a lot of people that want to succeed at wholesaling or real estate and they tell me all everything
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that’s all the same I want to succeed I want to make money I want to have a Financial Freedom you know I want to crush it but you know when I bring them
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in just start working with them there they are they do have some fear right they’re they’re afraid they’ll fail right and there’s really not much I can
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do um that can take that fear away other than show them teach them like practice
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with them but there are sometimes things that are deeper that maybe they don’t feel like self that confidence right
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that self-love you call it self-love is it would the same thing be like confidence in yourself like self you
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can’t have confidence in yourself really if if you lack self-love and if you do it’s it’s like narcissism it’s just
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false you portray that you’re you’re confident but deep down inside you’re not because you don’t feel good about
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yourself so what you just said is really important Nathan the subconscious your subconscious mind
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only has one purpose in your body and that is to keep you alive so what it
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likes to do is it likes to keep you in familiar situations so let’s say I’m
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just gonna let’s say that your mom was a bully um you are like and your mom calls you a
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lot of stress and a lot of trauma believe it or not your mind is going to
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go and search out a bully not purposely you’re not going to do it on purpose I
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married my dad twice if someone would have said to me 20 years ago when I met my my first wife go
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I’ll give you a million dollars if you can go find your father I would have been like I don’t know what to do but guess what I did it my brain went and
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found it so and why is that because it’s what’s familiar and your subconscious
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mind knows what’s familiar and it kept you alive it doesn’t care if you are happy or sad so let’s take all of these
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people that you and I have because I I used to coach real estate back in the day too and the same thing like all these people would come to me fired up
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and be like I want to be like you so many people didn’t because and here’s why and again it’s not their fault it’s
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not your fault and you don’t it’s like the The Good Will Hunting it’s not your fault it’s not your fault it’s not your fault but it’s the truth it really isn’t
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your fault right your brain wants to keep you in what’s familiar going and making phone calls and knocking on doors
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and putting up bandit signs is not familiar sitting on the couch possibly watching Netflix and drinking beer
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that’s familiar so your brain’s gonna always want to pull you back to what’s familiar because guess what it’s safe
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it’s safe so how do you change what did I say earlier all change begins with
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awareness so if you can do this work then you can figure out oh my gosh I
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really lack self-love oh my gosh I went back to the source of my pain my dad used to hit me and make fun of me and I
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said oh my God I must deserve it I’m a bad kid I’m no good that’s still controlling me holy moly now I can go
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make those calls because I know that I’m enough and if they hang up on me and yell at me it’s not my problem it’s
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their problem they’re they’re projecting on me exactly so few people know this
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and then that that Loop that we talked about in the beginning so now they don’t make phone calls now they start judging
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themselves and it goes right back to see I’m a lazy no good whatever and then you
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just relive it over and over and over again the rest of your life you know that’s that’s so powerful it’s
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so amazing because like you like you said you used to coach like that’s that’s what I’m doing I’m showing people that yes if you take Massive Action it
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does work right but I think what happens is taking that Massive Action is what people don’t feel comfortable with right
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and that’s you know that’s why I love working with bachelor’s why I love working with you is because it does it works right you just have to take the
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action and if you’re not able to do that you have to look deep down inside and be like what what’s stopping me
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yeah yeah so if you’ve been struggling for you know I I had a potential client told me for 20 years he’s been taking
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real estate different coaches and stuff he spent tens of thousands of dollars on it and he’s like I can’t afford you
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and I’m like brother I don’t need your money but you can’t not afford me like you you’re gonna stay in the same period
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because it was so obvious from what he told me that he had some childhood stress and his programming had messed him up and nothing is going to change so
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yeah it works so if you’re sitting here and you’ve been trying this for for years and nothing and you’re like it
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doesn’t work it works what doesn’t work is your brain and I’m not saying that in a bad way what doesn’t work is your
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thinking your thinking is holding you back so when I lost when I decided to to
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make those five business mistakes a lot of them were around my ego when I decide to buy a 42-foot boat and I didn’t even
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know how to read a chart and I I decided I was going to take it to the Bahamas two and a half years ago do you think I
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woke up and said I’m gonna go buy a boat I’m gonna go to the Bahamas because I’m no good and if I get to the Bahamas I’ll
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be good no it was all in my subconscious brain but if you all you have to do is look at the results of your life your
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relationship your health and they tell tell the story so if you’re sitting here thinking I’m happy I’m a happy guy you
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might be saying that but look at your results are you in a deeply connected intimate relationship do you take things
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personally are you upset all the time do you do you drink too much do are you on antidepressants or anti-anxiety do you
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have any anxiety and depression all of these are little clues that you’re thinking is flawed and if you’re
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thinking is flawed it’s gonna really mess up your real estate business well Brad I appreciate you coming on
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here and talking to people because uh I I think it’s important again to uh you know address what sometimes what’s
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keeping you from you know going for it right uh and there are you like you said there’s two categories there’s people that have been affected so they want to
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prove it and that’s they want to prove that there’s something and then the other ones that you know have been affected they’re just like well you know
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I want to do it but eventually they don’t they don’t take action right so um is there I’m curious do you think
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there’s other than just two ways that go people go about it in your opinion uh no I think that’s I think that’s huge I
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think those two things are huge but here’s a really important part if you’re like me and so many other
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people that do it to prove their Worth right and then then you make millions of dollars if you don’t do the work then
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you wake up one day and you’ve got the million dollars in the bank but you still feel like you’re still bad Health you still have bad relationships
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it doesn’t who cares if you’ve got a million dollars if you’re if you’re if you’re unhappy right so either way if
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you don’t do the work you’re going to continue to suffer money and money you Nathan can teach you how to go flip 100
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houses next year and if you have a if you have a score of lack of self-love it
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doesn’t matter if he teaches you how to flip one or a thousand I promise you and a lot of people want to fight me on this
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and they’re like well you have money so it’s easy to say I do have money but I can show you hundreds of people who have
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taken their own lives who had more money than they knew it to do it money won’t bring you happiness over a certain
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amount if I think it’s over eighty thousand dollars right you have to take care of your like yours your
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so so yeah dude this is like life-changing stuff so if you want to take the quiz go there I did start a
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Facebook group um for for entrepreneurs to find happiness it’s called how to be happier for entrepreneurs if you guys want to
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join it’s a private group it’s bradchandler.com forward slash Facebook um yeah you don’t have to suffer like if
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you’re struggling in your business you’ve got this amazing coach the one piece you might be missing is I don’t
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want to use the word mindset it’s it’s more about flawed thinking and it’s flint and it’s not your fault again it’s
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it’s your brain did its job so when you’re six years old and something bad happens to you your brain has to get you
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through that bad thing so what is that six-year-old little boy say or little girl well something’s bad happening to
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me I must be bad this is why it’s happening to me otherwise what’s the explanation the problem is that gets
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buried in you at six years old and when you’re 45 you’re 55 you’re still until you do the work you’re still that little
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secure girl inside of you or six-year-old boy that has those fears and has those I’m not good enough that
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rule your entire life when you make that change everything changes and I’m I’m like you know a lot of coaches don’t
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really walk their talk my life is freaking amazing every single day I’ve got a business that runs without me I
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don’t drink I don’t use weed I hardly ever eat sugar I’m in the best shape of my life and life is nothing really
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bothers me my 15 year old daughter can trigger me at times I don’t actually have made a tremendous success in the
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last 30 or 60 days because I just let the world happen around me you can’t control anything in this world they’re
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only one thing you can control in this world is your thoughts you get control by giving up control just let
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happen like whether whether it happens or not you can’t change it so just like
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enjoy it like everything that happens to you is happening for a reason and not to you so nothing bad ever happens to me
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anymore because there’s a lesson or something or you know my car has a flat tire and so I can’t go play golf well
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maybe if it didn’t have a flat tire I would have gotten hit by a 18 wheel at the at the traffic intersection and died
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you never know right never know so how can you sit there and say it’s bad we can’t right I love I love the power
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the energy you bring I appreciate you coming on here and everybody that’s been watching this like I said if you’re uh if you’re interested in chat with Brad
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definitely hit him up and the reason why I come on here and uh every week is my goal is to help everyone succeed if
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you’re not succeeding then we got to get you successful right whether that’s monetarily like making
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money or in your life like that’s that’s what I want for everyone here so that’s the purpose and why I come on every week
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is not just to come on here and chat because I do like talking to you Brad but um I come on here so we can we can
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improve people’s lives that’s what we do I’m with you man like impact right you and I want to make an impact when you’re
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in your business or your life and you can switch from trying to prove yourself by making money to actually trying to
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make an impact that’s why you’re successful that’s why I’m successful that’s why my real estate business is doing really really well now is because
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I’m not focused on the money I’m focused on how can I make the greatest impact and when you do that the money always
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comes a hundred percent and Brad we’ll we’ll leave off with that because I think that’s so important for everyone here when you are talking to that seller
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when you’re talking to that buyer you are there to serve them you’re there to help them you’re you’re not there to
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take advantage of them you’re not here to just try to make a quick Buck you’re you’re there how can I provide value how
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can I leave them off in a better position than I left them with and I know you said when your business started thriving even more when you started
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putting the people first right absolutely and my employees like when you’ve got employees who have headaches
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and anxiety and and can’t sleep at night how productive are they so inside your organizations you’ve got these people
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and if you don’t you will have these people so if you can figure out how to fix yourself and go through this process
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then when you bring people on you can help transform their lives as well yeah man and it is amazing like for me uh
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like I love my my employees but I had an employee the other day she they called me crying you know they were having a
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stress today and my reaction is not maybe in the past
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opportunities
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love it all right Brad well we love having you on here everybody that was uh we’re out
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it was good seeing you Brad talk to you later bye